It wasn’t until I was 50 years old that I realized I was a man in a woman’s body, and what a revelation it was ! The first time I wore a binder, I felt free, amazing, and very scared for how much this was going to impact my family. At the time, I was married to a wonderful woman, who was and still does, identify as a lesbian; I knew it would be the end of my marriage.
This July will mark my second anniversary of taking testosterone, and when I look back, the changes that seemed painfully slow for me at the time, have passed so quickly. When I look at my photographs, I see a massive change from my pre-everything photo (May 2015 and 6 months after I had worn a binder for the first time), to 1 year on hormones (and very soon after top surgery), then finally after 18 months on hormones.
Now I have an Adam’s apple, I sing in the Baritone section of an LGBTQ choir; my face, muscle and skin structure has shifted and everywhere I go I am called “Sir.” This feels miraculous to me.
I see a lot of sadness when I look into the eyes of my earlier photos, and such joy in my most recent one, an aliveness that was absent before.
My message to you is, follow your heart. It’s never to late to become the person you know you truly are !
This is about my weight loss discoveries and what has worked for me.
Many moons ago I was an automotive design engineer, my degree was in Mechanical Engineering, so please bear with me a moment ! Imagine a machine for a moment, let’s say this machine is a black box; it has an input and an output. Does it makes sense that whatever comes out of the machine is a result of whatever was put into it? Taking a real world example, we know a car engine (the machine) receives fuel and air (the input) into its’ combustion chamber, this is ignited, creates a controlled explosion which forces down the piston (which turns the crankshaft then ultimately ends up as rotation at the wheels), plus water and carbon monoxide come out the exhaust. If we put maple syrup into the engine instead of gasoline, the output is going to be very different, namely a gummed up engine and a large repair bill !
Now imagine a living machine, YOU ! Imagine yourself eating food that is fresh, still containing its’ life force … how do you imagine that feels to your living machine of a body? Next imagine yourself eating food that is essentially dead of life force, like those overly processed foods … and how do you imagine that feels to your body? My experiences have shown me that food that still has natural life gives life force, whereas food with a lack of life force often creates stress, sadness, low energy and pretty quickly, more hunger !
Here the my top 5 actions that helped me shift and become slimmer:
- Eating more natural, fresh food
- Not too much
- Drinking plenty of water
- Avoiding eating later than 6pm
- Drinking less alcohol